In this episode, Komal shares her conversation with Minaa B., licensed therapist and self-described boundary expert.
Minaa teaches us how to create strong boundaries and how to honour ourselves and those we love in the process. We also explore how to navigate boundaries with work, how to navigate the fear that can come when creating and sustaining boundaries and more.
Komal shares her interview with Minaa B. about boundaries and self care. They talk about what boundaries are, the five dimensions of self-care, and how you can connect with them to set boundaries in your life.
Minaa B. tells us how setting boundaries can create guilt, and even safety issues in some cases. She shares some advice on how we can work through guilt, and what we can do in circumstances when things feel unsafe.
How we can change the way that we respond to circumstances and other people rather than changing our boundaries, and how we can stand up for them.
How we can choose who to trust when considering who we are going to in our life when we are looking for validation, support, knowledge, affirmation, or different considerations when it comes to what is on our heart.
Boundaries around work and energy management: what does it look like to do this during a pandemic?
Implementing new boundaries with ourselves and others can be anxiety-inducing. How we can work through the fear that comes with change, and continue doing things that are good for us?
It took hitting rock bottom with my health, and leaving a business partnership where I was gaslit to really understand what boundaries were, and that I was allowed to create them.
Me... the youngest child in my household, who grew up in a home living with 10+ family members at any given time, someone who was so used to being always available to others, was actually allowed to create boundaries and ask for what I needed.
What. A. Concept.
That year in 2017, I began to test out what it looked like to set boundaries with those I love. If voices were raised with me, I would stop the conversation and let that person know that I don’t accept that behaviour and way of communicating in my life anymore. If someone wanted more than I could give, I would let them know directly that I could not show up in the way they were asking me to.
I learned what I needed to be well and stay well psychologically, and I practiced what it meant to advocate for myself in work and in relationships.
As the days and weeks passed and I began building confidence in setting boundaries and better protecting my needs, life became more supportive, calm, and manageable. I was able to learn more about myself. I was able to better understand who I am, and who I could become now that I was created more space for my truth and my needs.
I had started paving the way towards my dream life. Not related to the material world, but rather my inner world. The community I had always dreamed of began forming around me and were showing up in a way that was respectful and empowering for both of us.
I had levelled up.
In this episode, we dive into so much of the how behind what I shared above. We chat about how to create a boundary, even in difficult situations and with those you love. This time with Minaa truly changed my life. I can’t wait for it to do the same for you.
Until next time,
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